Stop Toxic Judgements

October 26, 2025 Vivian Fang

停止有毒的判斷

Continue reading the book, "Practice Without Reaction: Buddha's Super-Rational Thought That Makes All Worries Go Away" (the original title:《反応しない練習：あらゆる悩みが消えていくブッダの超・合理的な「考え方」》)from yesterday, the Japanese author Ryushun Kusanagi(草薙龍瞬) talked about how there is no need to seek approval from others.

I am 200% with him that seeking approval from others is a recipe for frustrations. Many of the social norms and expectations from others, including parents, older adults, teachers, and superiors, had put unnecessary pressure on people. The reality is that most of these superiors do not even live up to their own standards when judging others.

We should stop craving acceptance, approval, and liking and just be ourselves at ease.

Another point I strongly agree with Ryushun—and the reason I wrote this short article —is that we have to stop all these toxic judgments. I never appreciate it when people make quick judgments—I find it rude and reckless.

We should not impose our judgment on others. And we should not judge ourselves, nor should we be judged by others in a toxic way.

To link these to my photos below.

Well, have you heard of the famous Jenny Bakery from Hong Kong? Family friends brought us some during their HK trip, and while I was waiting for my Uber Delivery, I had a few pieces. Yum!

Can you believe that Jenny Bakery cookies have been popular for 20 years, and I heard the queue is still long, even though they have more than one shop now. If you haven't had it, give it a try next time you are in Hong Kong.

早上方方繼續翻昨天的那本《不反應的練習：讓所有煩惱都消失，世界最強、最古老的心理訓練入門》(原文《反応しない練習：あらゆる悩みが消えていくブッダの超・合理的な「考え方」》，作者草薙龍瞬（Ryushun Kusanagi）說到幾點我都好同意。

真的，很多人都盲目追求別人的肯定，希望得到多點肯定的「認同欲」是很普遍的心態。